It’s kind of late in the day. How’s everyone
doing? Do we need to move around a little,
get the blood flowing a little? If you guys
can hear me, I’d like to move around a bit
because that messes up the camera people.
Well, thanks, everyone, for coming out. Do
you guys can hear me okay? Yeah.
So I was upstairs and somebody asked me today,
they said, “Are you a men’s rights activist?”
which is something I’d actually not really
thought about before. And what popped into
my head was it’s like going to a doctor and
saying, “Do you treat cholera?” “We take on
all illnesses here,” if you’re a doctor. If
you’re a philosopher, your enemy is evil.
A lot of philosophers don’t like to talk about
it, but it is the case that your enemy is
evil if you’re a philosopher. And there is
evil, of course, in what the men’s rights
movement is trying to expose and oppose. So
I guess you can say, as a doctor treats cholera,
I am a men’s rights activist.
Now, evil is one slippery bastard which is
why it is still here. It goes through the
dark work. It’s like Ripley in Aliens, like
it crawls up your leg. It’s in your jam. It’s
everywhere. And the real challenge of evil
is that you can’t ever really fight it because
the moment everyone recognizes something as
evil, it’s done. The great challenge is in
the definitions of evil and the communications
of those definitions which is what I’m going
to talk about today.
And by the way, I know it’s been like a long
afternoon of listening, hands up, thrown words
out, ask questions, let’s make this a dialogue;
otherwise, I might as well be, you know, on
YouTube, where I look even younger. Try me
in 240p, I’m like 28.
So the challenge is always in the definition,
right? How many people here are like, “Yay
slavery!” All right, those t-shirts are not
going to sell. Now, why are we not “Yay slavery!”?
For a long time people were. In the middle
of the 19th century in the south, only two
people in a hundred were pro-slavery. Now
you can’t find anybody who is pro-slavery
because the definition has been expanded.
The definition of humanity has expanded to
include those formerly slaves including my
Irish ancestors. And now we don’t have a debate
about slavery anymore. There is slavery still
in the world, but nobody defends it.
That is the challenge and challenge is the
definition. Once people understand that something
is immoral, they react against it. So it’s
all about the definitions. Once people see
something is evil, they will act against it;
they will reject it. You know, the most dangerous
diseases are the ones that fool your immune
system into thinking, “Hey, this guy is a
friend. Let’s let them multiply.” You want
your immune system to say “Kill, die, die,
die, die!” to everything that is going to
kill die, die you. I don’t want to be overly
technical. I’m not a doctor. But the definition
So when people talk about something like circumcision,
it doesn’t sound too bad — circumspect, circumnavigate,
circumvent — it’s kind of a venting, right?
But what we don’t do is to find it correctly.
What’s the correct definition? Genital mutilation
— a little tougher to sell. Would you like
your son to be circumcised? I don’t know.
Maybe. Would you like your son to be genitally
mutilated? Is this the opening of a horror
movie? You go for help. Oh, for another bloody
So the definitions are essential. It is. Male
genital mutilation contributes to a wide variety
of health problems. Do you know if you are
circumcised, you have, hey, five times the
chance to have erectile dysfunction as an
adult, right? Thirty percent of men across
the world have this done to them, far more
than has happened to women. It is a third
of the skin of the penis that is removed.
It contributes to discomfort for women on
the receiving end of sex because — I mean
the whole point of the foreskin is so that
there’s some give. It’s not a broomstick.
So it contributes massively to expenses, of
course. And do you know what the price is
of an intact man? A couple of hundred bucks.
Amazing, amazing, amazing. So check those
out. It used to be that the government covered
the costs of circumcision and then they decided
Anybody know what happened to circumcision
rights? Yeah, they dropped by almost half
because people are like, “Oh, 200 bucks?”
200 bucks. Well, shit! I mean I’ve got some
standards. Thank you very much. A lifetime
of male sexual pleasure, 10% complications
arising from this absolutely unnecessary hacking
of a human being. No, that doesn’t stir our
sympathy because, you see, that’s male pleasure.
And if we train men to actually enjoy life,
they’re backward courses.
The Christian almost largely it lay fallow
for many hundreds of years and then in the
19th century — this may come as a shock to
most of the members of the audience but sometimes
men masturbate. All I’m saying is you’re lucky
there are cameras on me. It’s the reason I
should waste up. I’m itchy. Kind of true I
guess. And there was this desperate fear that
man would enjoy alone time.
And so one of the ways that they wanted to
cut that out, I suppose, was by cutting it
up, right? This is one of the ways in which
men were not supposed to touch themselves
was by reducing sensual pleasure, that through
circumcision we were supposed to be saved
from the evils of self-abuse and the, you
know, because I guess there weren’t enough
hairy palms to show everyone who was doing
it so they had to find another way.
So in the definitions lies the solution. Once
you define something as an illness, once you
define something morally as an evil, then
people react against it, right? Would you
like me to save your child from a one in 111
chance of having a urinary tract infection?
Do you know that little girls get urinary
tract infections too? Do you know they actually
treat that not by sawing off the labia but
with antibiotics? Because little girls live
in the 21st century; little boys are medieval.
Well, it doesn’t take in men so…
Or one in 1,437 chance of penile cancer, which
I hear you can also get from watching Nancy
Grace but that’s another statistic. I actually
have nothing against Nancy Grace when I thought
of penile cancer. I saw that some psychiatrists
who’s going to email this and I can explain
all of that for you or they just give up and
say medicate them.
So you have one in 1,437 chance of developing
penile cancer. You can reduce that slightly
if you get circumcised, if you get genitally
mutilated. Anyone know odds of breast cancer
for women? One in eight. One in eight. One
in eight. You know, you line up eight boobs
in a row, one of them is going to turn homicidal.
You had those dreams, right?
I was raised by a German mother so that’s
eight out of eight but that’s a different
story. But we don’t, of course, say to little
girls, “Well, we’ve got to remove your breasts
because…” Oh, but you see, babies don’t
remember it. And similarly, you’ll all hear
feminists say, “Well, if the woman is unconscious,
when she’s raped, she doesn’t remember it.
So what’s the problem?”
There’s a nice slice for someone to matter,
does it? Oh, I’ll be joining your —
Give them a few more!
If you play the next part backwards. No, it
is. And of course, the body does remember.
Do you know that babies who are circumcised,
boys who are circumcised have elevated levels
of distress hormone cortisol six months afterwards?
Almost half of circumcisions are done without
anesthetic. There was a study that they tried
to do circumcisions on boys to test the right
anesthetics but they had to stop it because
it was inhumane. So inhumane to study it;
no problem to do it. And for most of the remaining
one where there is anesthetic, it’s a topical
anesthetic, you know like the kind you use
for bug bites and stuff like that? That’s
one bastard of a mosquito, I’ll tell you that.
So this is the definition. This is the clarity.
Now, I want to make a case for something here
that would be interesting and again feedback,
comments, all perfectly welcome.
So I was listening to a Canadian government
broadcaster called CBC and they had a feminist
on. So I deployed my earbags, got myself into
the de-stressed position; actually, that’s
just the position sucking my thumb but I won’t
do that here and I was like, “Okay, hit me.
Hit me with the crazy. Come on, baby!” And
I’m telling you, she did not disappoint me.
Not even a bit. I need a prop for this part.
So have you ever heard of something called
microaggressions. Now, microaggressions, I
thought they were referring to my schoolyard
fighting technique which went something like
this. I imagine the Tyrannosaurus rex falling
over while having an epileptic attack, somewhat
similar, but apparently not. Now microaggressions
are when men…
I was going to say fart because sometimes…
Hey, all livestock fart that’s why we have
So this is what is called microaggressions
according to this feminist. Now, imagine a
feminist subway not the shop, like a subway
car, right? No microaggressions yet. Wait.
Wait for it. Wait. Hands up when any woman
feels aggressed against or men. Now, I’ve
seen women do this in a skirt and
I feel quite aggressive against them especially
if they’ve got a lady garden like a New York
But anyway, so that is microaggression if
you are a man and you apparently sprawl in
a subway, this is a microaggression towards
a woman. And she feels like very sensitive
to that and you probably have heard of the
Yes All Women hashtag. You know, man whistled,
a man made appreciative comments about the
tight dress, whatever, right? But that’s just
my hashtag. So these are the microaggressions
that women experience that they are very sensitive
to male aggression.
The best way to defeat idiocy is just listen
to them and just repeat it back. So I would
like to sort of explain something about microaggressions
because in the same interview with this feminist
she said, “Well, men are just, you know, they
have this aggression. They have this violence,
this aggression. And women, we can’t do anything
about it.” The only way to solve this aggression
is for men to discuss amongst themselves how
to close their legs on a subway, how to not
impose upon women, reduce the breathing that
the lady talked about. And then men can talk
amongst themselves because where does male
violence come from?
Let’s just assume that there’s male violence.
Obviously, there is not all men, but there
is male violence. So where does it come from?
Well, according to this woman and this is
a pretty common view among feminists, they
are closely like dust in the air, like dust
in the wind. They are these male-only memes
that float round the culture that are generated
by men with no input from women. They float
around the culture and they go into your ears
or up your nose and they make you violent.
So there are these memes, these ideas, these
cultures that men inhabit men and make them
violent. And women have nothing to do with
it whatsoever, in any way, shape or form.
Men have to solve it completely on their own.
So when I was studying — I have a master’s
in history, focus on the history and philosophy
and one of the great writers for clear thinking
is Voltaire. I don’t know if you’ve ever read
him but if you haven’t, right after this call,
go read Voltaire. Now, there was a tradition
that he was part of in 18th century France
which was like the blank slate of human nature.
So they went over to the new world. They found
all these “savages.” And they then brought
them back to the court. And a lot of people
wrote about the view of the French court from
a savage who had never seen it before and
it was one way that they communicated how
insane and absurd the monarchy was. So I like
the blank slate approach. Let’s just talk
about male violence from a space alien’s perspective.
“Oh, I got to go and check out earth. They’re
mostly harmless. So I got to check out earth.”
And you go to earth and you say, “Wow, there’s
quite a bit of violence here” — wars and
predations and aggressions and, oh, these
rapes and terrible stuff that occurs.
Okay, where does it come from? This is where
you can throw some stuff in. Where do you
think violence come from? I don’t buy the
human nature argument. I just don’t because
the only thing that’s common about human beings
is how great we are at adapting, right? I
mean Muslim kids adapt to the Muslim culture.
Pennsylvanian kids adapt to the Pennsylvanian
culture. Amish kids adapt to — saying what
is human nature is like saying what is the
shape of water? It depends on what you pour
it into. It adapts to that, right? So where
do you guys think violence comes from?
Last resort of powerlessness.
Last resort of powerlessness. What was the
I think childhood experiences.
I’ll be coming back to you, young lady.
Okay, yeah. So you would do the research and
you would say, “Well, where does violence
in human society come from?” Well, the research
is pretty clear which means completely ignored
by most of humanity. Ninety percent of a child’s
brain is formed by its experiences in the
first four to five years of life. And violence
is when the fight or flight mechanism is activated
early. Deep down in the amygdala, the fight
or flight mechanism kicks up. The cortisol
and adrenaline and all of that provoked in
a child and if the child is chronically stimulated
with aggression or abandonment, then the child
develops a more violent brain, a brain more
prone to violence, less capacity to inhibit
You know, you ever had that you get this surge
of anger you actually have about one-quarter
of one second to stop that beast, right? I
mean you’ve got to intercept what’s happening
in your brain and that knowledge of your own
capacity for aggression, which I think we
all mostly have, being able to intercept it
is something that is modeled by parents treating
you respectfully and all that and controlling
their own impulses and so on. So you’d say,
okay, we got this problem called violence
and we have science which says where it comes
from which is basically the first couple of
years of a child’s life.
Well, my next question as the space alien
would be, “Okay, if violence comes from childhood,
early childhood in particular, why who is
in charge of early childhood?” 50/50 chance.
Yes, it’s the ladies who are in charge of
Now, look, I’m going to give you guys the
respect of knowing that you’re over three
years old and to recognize that there are
exceptions to everything I’m saying. I’m a
stay-at-home dad so, yes, I’m an exception,
blah, blah, blah, right? I know that you guys
can hear that most Asians are short without
saying, “I know what tall is.” I understand
that. We’re talking in generalities. There
are exceptions, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah,
So women are in charge from conception onwards,
right? The women ingest the right food or
not; they smoke, they don’t; they have wine,
they don’t. They give birth and then they
choose to keep the child or they — I mean,
keep the child around and they stay home,
they breastfeed or they don’t and so on. Or
they put their kids in daycare where guess
what? A lot of women around, right? I worked
as an assistant teacher in the daycare for
a couple of years when I was younger and,
yeah, I mean it was quite the good fest. I
mean it was just women everywhere.
So naturally, like all the kids of single
like no dad, they just, you know, father figure.
So women stay home with the kids or they put
them in daycare where it’s nothing but women,
but then the children go to school. Women
are there too, right? Ninety-five percent
of primary schoolteachers are women. So maybe
around grade 10 or grade 11, they might run
into a man.
So basically, you have an almost universal
control over childhood from women. Are you
beginning to see the full cannonball crazy
that I got on the face from this woman complaining
about male aggression and microaggressions
that women have absolutely nothing to do with,
can’t do anything to solve, have no responsibility
for? Violence is formed in childhood. Women
control childhoods. And our desperate hope
as moralists, as people who want a better
world is to break the cycle of what happens.
We only have our five years away from an absolute
paradise of a planet, from a planet that we’re
meeting here for a hoe down, not fighting
more corruption and craziness and immorality.
Five years, we can just get people to be nice
to their babies for five years straight. That
would be it for war, drug abuse, addiction,
promiscuity, sexually transmitted diseases
— almost all would be completely eliminated
because they all arise from the function of
early childhood experiences which are all
run by women.
Okay, so then the feminists would say, “Well,
yes, okay, it’s true that maybe it’s true
that women” — okay, they wouldn’t admit that.
Sorry, that’s fact-based. I’m just trying
to get into the mindset. Sexist! Woman hater!
No, no, that’s no good. Take down the patriarchy.
But they would say the men are bad. The women
are abandoned by the man and blah, blah, blah.
Okay, let’s face it. We’re going to say, okay,
well, if women are saying that problems in
early childhood are men’s fault, well, we’d
say, okay, as a space alien I would say, “Well,
who chooses who in the dating game?”
Hands up if you’re a man who had been asked
out for a date on a woman where she paid.
You? I need you to take off your pants, sir.
She must have seen you in a Speedo and thought,
“I need something from to step up on.”
Okay, so what happened? Can you tell me the
Am I the only person?
You are the only person. Yeah.
A dentist met me and she invited me out to
dinner on a date.
With something like this? “Drill, baby, drill.”
It was nothing like that?
She’d gone and dressed up and —
Okay so you were asked out by a woman. Did
She never ever would have done that but she
Good for you. Anybody else? Yes, sir. All
right. Give us your secrets. How are you a
man whore? Tell me.
She said she was German.
She was German? So she ordered you out, not
asked. “Call me!”
She was trying to insert authority over the
I wonder, was she from the Philippines? It’s
the same woman, right? All right.
So I mean it’s 1% or 2%. Studies show about
95% of the time, men ask women out, right?
What women make themselves look attractive
and again generalizing, but women make themselves
look attractive in the hopes that men will
ask them out and they get to choose from the
waving, grabbing penis things around. So this
is what happens.
Now, have you ever been — I mean once in
my life, I was like, a couple of employers
wanted to hire me at the same time. Have you
ever been in like the receiving end of a bidding
war? Yeah? It’s sweet, right? Oh, man, you
just wake up like you’re floating on air.
You can’t do anything wrong. You don’t need
to shower anymore because people want you.
You don’t have to show up to work with pants
anymore. I’m there. It’s a beautiful thing.
It’s a beautiful thing.
So we actually had this once, this is back
in the dot-com days in the ’90s, I was in
a bidding war, and it got to the point where
people were like, “I’ll pay you $150,000 a
year for three days work in a week.” I’m like,
“No, I’m going to write novels because that’s
where the money is.”
Anyway, so if you’re on the receiving end
of a bidding war, it’s a pretty sweet place
to be. And for the majority of women of attractiveness,
personality or physical, whatever, they are
on the receiving end of multiple offers right?
This is always confusing to me when women
complain about the men that they have because
you get to test drive. I mean for years you
get to choose from a variety of cars, you
get to test drive cars for years, you finally
pick a car that usually pays you to buy it,
and then you get to drive the car and then
you say, “This car sucks. I’m going to make
a boat.” You could have just picked the boat
to begin with. “No, I’m going to change it.”
So if women choose the man and get to test
drive the man and get to marry the man and
stay with the man and have children with the
man and so on, it’s kind of ridiculous to
say, “Well, all the problems in my life arrives
from this guy.” You see, this is again space
alien time. We’re just trying to really detract
our self from the minutia of the propaganda
that so often bewilders us, right?
So here we have, just to recap, the problem
with human violence, of course in early childhood,
women are in charge of early childhood. Women
choose the man with whom they’re going to
have children, right?
So how do we break the cycle of violence?
Lecturing men is ridiculous. I mean factually,
it’s scientific, lecturing men is ridiculous.
There is zero patriarchy for children. Again,
give or take, right? But this is why when
women are complaining about microaggressions
and women are saying, “We have nothing to
do with the cycle of violence. There’s nothing
we can do. You men got to work it out amongst
yourselves,” it’s like we need the space invasion
just to cling arms to come down and say, “Here’s
the facts that we see from orbit because you’re
all confused down here.”
A study was recently done, so a psychologist
went and he said, “I’d really like to study
verbal aggression within the household. I
can just shake this bottle and open the top.”
So he went to daycare and he asked the parents
— they were all women. I think there was
one man. But he asked the parents, he says,
“Do you yell at children?” And they all said
basically, “Yeah. They make me.”
So what he did was he put the recording devices
on them like he’s some stalked man. He puts
the recording devices on them and then he
just said, just turn it on, record every day
for a week and then he got them back. He also
asked them some other questions. So there
was one man out of the many men, it’s all
women basically, and the women said, “Yeah,
I yell at them. I guess I hit my kids maybe
18 times a year,” whatever.
So he got the data back and this is the middle
class — this is not right down in the dregs.
This is like middle class, comfortable, and
all that kind of stuff, so this is probably
less than it is in reality. Anybody want to
guess instead of 18 times a year hitting children,
what does anybody want to put a finger on
the number at?
We got 300. We got 900. I hadn’t had enough
coffee to do whatever those guys do, the wide
rack of livestock sales. 900? It was 932 — 932
times a year. Does anyone want to guess the
age ranges of the children? I can tell you
this; it was not 18-year-old sons. It’s one
thing to do this; it’s another thing do this.
I remember my mom yelling at me when I was
like 17. Remember the last food you gave me?
It’s coming back.
Anyone want to guess what the bottle age of
the children that were being hit 932 times
a year? Lower. Lower. Seven months. Seven
months of age.
A kid doesn’t know what’s happening.
Oh, it is. It’s abuse. I mean the upper end
was three, three and a half, close to four.
Seven months to four years old, these average
American women were hitting their children
932 times per year. We also know women hit
sons two to three times more than their daughters.
Why was that only for women? Did you test
it against men?
This is just the people who were at the daycare
who had access to the psychologist. He’s been
on my show explaining the experiment. You
can look at it more – oh, by the way, Freedomain
Radio not Freedom Radio, although that would
So I can’t reinforce this enough. I get a
super smart crowd and all that. I want you
to get the insanity of this. So women saying,
“Well, men have to just deal with their weird
aggressions. We have nothing to do with it.
We don’t know where it comes from. We’re helpless.”
If you’re a little boy and you’re being hit
by a giant woman over 900 times a year and
probably it’s closer to 1,500 if you average
it out in two to three times, 1,500, 1,750,
something like that. The study also showed
that the hits occurred within 30 seconds of
a conflict beginning. Not a lot of reasoning
going on, right? I mean that’s not a cop pulling
you over and just shooting the tires out as
you drive past. I mean there’s not any kind
of negotiation that’s happening here.
Violence begins in early childhood as the
result of abuse. Women are in charge of early
childhood. Women are hitting children 900
plus times a year after 30 seconds of a conflict
beginning. You don’t have to be like cling
on Sherlock Holmes to crack this case. Where
does violence come from? And this is why — let’s
go back to our — so over here I’d like you
picture billions of women hitting children
hundreds of times a year. Not even counting
yelling at them. Not even counting putting
them in daycare. It’s not even counting neglect
or abandonment. Not even counting keeping
their fathers away. Let’s just talk about
the hitting — 932 times a year. That is not
You know what is talked about? The difference
between this and this. But you see how insane
this is. You have women pounding the crap
out of seven-month-old babies and all we ever
hear about is aggression, violence is just
some bizarre male issue that women have nothing
to do with.
This is what I mean when I say like the space
alien perspective will strip you of friends,
will strip you of any opportunity for a civilized
discussion because the way society is and
the cases that are put forward by people is
so mad. So then again, space alien time; we’re
saying, “Well, what’s the solution?” The solution
to violence of course would be a couple of
We had speakers up here talking about let’s
have dads around more. Absolutely. Two key
things for the development of child’s empathy:
one, a father around; two, free play in nature.
Anyone know why the second one is? It’s kind
of interesting. Anyone guess? It will have
to be the older people because the young people
free play nature is like oblivion at high
res or something.
When you have age-mixing of children and free
play such as teach one another about the need
to please one another because if they don’t,
their playmates run away. They have to please
within the group.
Yeah. I grew up in England and we basically
like we all hang out. It’s like, “Well, what
do you want to do?” We have to find something
that wins for everyone that everyone wants
to do. You have to sacrifice, you have to
defer and all that kind of stuff. So you kind
of impose your will. Everybody is on their
iPads. They’re not negotiating, right?
So there is a huge correlation between free
play in nature, the presence of fatherhood,
and empathy which is the most important natural
resource in the world and which is becoming
increasingly in short supply. Sociopathy,
which is really the absence of empathy, has
doubled over the last 15 years.
When you say free play, are you referring
to perhaps a different play style with the
child between the two types?
No adults. That’s all it is. Not out there
in a soccer field. No structure. Go play unsupervised,
no adults, no structure. Figure out what you
want to do. Go, come home with the street
lights, and come home.
One example of a different style of play I
consider more free than when my ex-wife now
when she would play with the child, be very
formalized and nothing free about it really,
whereas when I played with my kid it was like
freestyle, hey, have fun. Let’s kick a ball.
No, if you’re there, that’s great. That’s
part of the empathy. I don’t know the exact
reason. Maybe we can theorize about it. I
don’t know the exact reason why the presence
of man is better for empathy. I personally
think that it’s because women grow these beasts
in their belly and that’s far I remember for
the movie that come out like, coming up and
killed John Hurt.
But I think women are so fused with the kids.
I mean they grow them and then they breastfeed
them and that’s so fused. I think fathers
have a little bit productive space. The closeness
and the intimacy is fantastic for the moms
and the babies, but the dads have a little
bit more space, a little bit more open to
negotiate. Yeah, like the space aliens. Excellent.
Dads are like space aliens, you get that?
You get that out of context. Okay.
Do you know if there is any research on the
effects of helicopter parenting that many
women today are engaging in on the ability
for children to engage in free play?
Yeah, I mean that’s a lot of — I mean it
generally provokes passivity and again a lack
of negotiation. Your children are much safer
than they used to be out in the world now.
We have all of these weird ideas like if the
kids are out playing in the neighborhood,
that’s dangerous. No, no, no, no, no. That’s
not statistically the way it is. It’s they’re
going to be attacked, it’s going to be somebody
in the family, it’s going to be somebody who’s
a friend. It’s not going to be some guy in
a van driving. “So we have to be able to keep
the kids home and safe and that way I know
where they are. I need you to be safe. Don’t
go out.” We need to give like micro tasers
to kids or something like that.
But, yeah, I mean the violence is occurring
but in the home and violence is a bit diminishing
in a lot of ways. There are a variety of arguments
as to why that is. I think some of it has
to do with the fact that kids are put in institutions
which is bad in a lot of ways, like children
put in the daycare before the age of four
for more than 20 hours a week experience exactly
the same symptoms as maternal abandonment.
So you get this radical attachment disorder
which creates instability, neediness, aggression,
lack of compliance, and all those kinds of
But at least in those institutions they are
not getting hit 932 times per year. No, I
think in general I think — again US schools
are a little different because I know in US
schools and a lot of them in the south schools
in particular corporal punishment is still
acceptable. I think it’s 18 or something like
that states. But most daycares, at least not
in the ones I worked in, I mean you couldn’t
— not that we were all dying to, but you
couldn’t attack the kids that way. So they
would be hit a lot less and that may have
something to do with it.
Being the daughter or a single mom and just
reading about — just having worked around
single moms and just reading about what they
deal with, they just have so much stress.
And I think an important factor in your discussion
is just when you’re a mom and you’re around
your child all the time and you’re around
a small child, it’s just very, very stressful.
I have just done some reading about — like
there are articles about single moms in stress
and all that kind of stuff, and they’d list
all the things that can ease the stress in
a single mom’s life. And I go on down t he
list and then I’d read and read and not one
of them mentioned anything about involving
the father. It’s like why? Because the father
is — it takes two to tango and the father
ought to be there. He ought to be, well, responsible.
But it doesn’t take two to tango because women
choose mates. Again, if that’s rape, that’s
obviously a different situation and so on.
So first of all, it takes two to tango, women
still are in the privilege position of choosing
from a variety of suitors, in general. That’s
The second, the stress argument bothers me
and you could be correct but I will tell you
why it bothers me and we can certainly open
it up to discussion. There’s no stress defense
for hitting your wife. There’s no state of
mind excuse for male violence, and that’s
why I talked about it in my show many times.
The feminist will talk about the abuse of
power disparities. Feminists will talk about
abuse of power disparities like the boss dating
the secretary or the man keeping money away
from his stay-at-home wife or something because
there’s power disparity there.
Of course, in reality and in fact, there’s
no greater power disparity than between parent
and child. The wife chose to be there. Children
don’t choose to. They don’t choose their families.
They are not there by choice. Wives can leave
at any time — legal rights, property, independence,
shelters. Children cannot leave.
So I can’t go with women are stressed and
therefore… because there’s no state of mind
that excuses male violence, not that I’ve
ever heard. And you’ll see this when you look
online. Whenever people talk about women’s
abuses, they will almost always put in that
excuse. Well, they’re poor. Well, they’re
stressed. Well, they’re juggling work and
family while they don’t have help and resources
and this and that and the other, right? But
again, I’ve never heard that for men hitting
I think what I was really trying to say is
in the literature that I read about single
moms in stress, I think what would really
help would be if they just acknowledge that
since man is half of the reason why the child
is there, that the father — they are just
interdependent on the fact that they need
the father, they need him to be around, and
it’s you have to adopt the mindset of a team
Well, but if they chose a man who’s not around,
then they’re still responsible for that choice.
Again, I’m not taking men out of the equation
completely, but the woman is currently the
gatekeeper because the woman is the one who
suffers a lot more of pregnancy than an irresponsible
Now, historically, what used to happen prior
to the welfare state was the woman who got
pregnant outside of wedlock, we all know what
would happen, right? They would go on a vacation.
They would give birth to the child. They would
return to the family without the child and
the child would be given up for adoption,
which was in the best interest of the child
statistically because children who were adopted
into two-parent households do just fine. They
do just find relatively to everybody else
who’s born there. Statistically, there’s no
But women who keep the children as single
mothers harm those children. It’s an incredibly
selfish and destructive thing to do. If you
don’t have a husband, if you chose the wrong
guy to keep the child is abusive almost always.
And that’s what used to happen before women
could force all men to become better providers
through the powers of the state.
And that’s what should for the best interest
of the child. Give it up for adoption. You’ve
already proven that you’re irresponsible.
You can’t choose the right guy, you can’t
keep your legs closed and can’t use birth
control of which there are 18 different kinds.
So maybe parenthood isn’t for you. I mean
at least yet. Work on tying the shoes. Yes,
So bringing you talk full circle.
We’re not done yet, brother.
What I’m wondering is that I looked for a
study like this and I haven’t seen one, but
it certainly makes sense just from observing
different countries in the world. I’m wondering
is there any data looking at the amount of
violence in a society particularly male violence,
military aggressions, things of that nature,
and circumcision rate? It certainly makes
sense if you have increased stress hormones
shortly after birth, if you have a culture
of violence to men immediately.
The problem is you can’t just separate one
variable. Where there is circumcision there
is general more brutality towards children
and more brutality towards boys in particular.
So you can’t just look at circumcision and
say that’s — everything is the same but circumcision.
It’s a symptom of a wider disregard for the
thoughts and feelings of men and boys.
So certainly, you can — I’ve been reading
an audiobook by Lloyd Dumas called The Origins
of War in Child Abuse which is available at
freedomainradio.com/free, and that’s where
he talks about how war comes directly out
of this, directly correlated to levels of
child abuse. So I think accepting that circumcision
is male genital mutilation, it’s certainly
going to be part of the fire that burns the
Listen, I just had a look at my speech notes,
it’s already half done. I’m kidding. I’ve
got five more minutes. That’s good stuff.
Do you guys want to have any questions because
I don’t want to miss that part?
Hi. I know you said something earlier about
there are always exceptions, but as a licensed
daycare provider for 25 years and foster mom
for 10 and 11 loving a nonviolent mother,
I just want to acknowledge that there are
moms that don’t hit children and there are
some excellent daycare providers out there.
Absolutely, yeah. I’m married to one. We’ve
never raised our voice. We’ve never punished.
We’ve never hit. We’ve never — and she’s
a fantastically wonderful child. You know,
when you don’t have violence, you get creativity
and if you don’t have “Well, I’ll hit my kid,”
then you have to figure out creative solutions
as you know, right? And that’s a lot more
fun as parents.
You know why a single mom is so stressed?
Well, if they’re hitting their kids 932 times
a year, the relationship sucks. They have
no authority. They only have force. That’s
a very stressful situation to be in. You’re
constantly playing Whac-A-Mole. It turns out
in the study that the behavior that the moms
hit the kids for was resumed to less than
10 minutes — less than 10. It doesn’t work.
All it does is vent to sadism at the moment.
We had a question?
I’m Taylor. I was curious —
You got to do some Barry White for me, man.
That’s a beautiful voice.
I get that a lot. I was curious circumcisions.
Is there any data that shows the percentage
of circumcisions that are seriously botched
to the point of urinary or erectile dysfunction?
I do have those numbers. Just come to me afterwards.
I normally do this with a PowerPoint but I
consider PowerPoint for the week except for
everyone else who did PowerPoint. I’ll get
to those numbers afterwards but it’s not insignificant
Yes, sir, in the back.
Hey, Stefan. I have a question. I am also
against — I don’t have any children but the
things that you talk about child abuse really
make sense. I think it’s wrong to — first
any type of spanking. And one other thing
I wanted to say that I’ve talked to my mom
about this and, yeah, I was spanked but she
came to the realization that just like you
did. She chose to be in her situation I did
and she said that she actually apologize for
that. It was just out of nowhere and she just
thought of it. I don’t know what she watched.
Maybe she watched Freedomain Radio Show. I
But another thing I was doing research on
this and if, you know, being a black man myself,
I’ll just accept it for what it is. Is it
true that when it comes to race, that when
it comes to spanking your children, it’s actually
worse in the black community than other, you
know — I mean, I’m not going to just say,
“Hey, it can’t be true, it can’t be true.”
I think it is true statistically. I think
it is. So I did this video on Trayvon Martin
and George Zimmerman which basically I don’t
care that much about the case but it was a
great way to get a million people to see in
it in the spanking message. I included a clip
of President Obama, which you may have seen,
where he was talking about how “Hey, remember
the good old days when even if it wasn’t your
kid, if you saw them acting up, you hit them?”
like you couldn’t say that.
I don’t think you could say that to alike
a white community but he’s in there in a black
community, and there is of course a lot more
corporal punishment. There’s lots of reasons
for that. Some sociological, some historical
which I’m not going to speak to, but I think
a lot of it has to do with the prevalence
of single motherhood as well. So single motherhood
is associated with higher rates of child abuse
and of course much more single motherhood
in the black community than the white community
and even less in the Asian.
So on the subject of circumcision, feminists
often say “my body, my choice.” At what age
do you think someone should be allowed “my
body, my choice”?
Yeah. I mean if it’s a spleen that they’re
talking about, that’s one thing but that is
a human life in there. I think that should
have a say as well. But as far as adults go,
I think we already have laws in place for
that. The age of consent for medical procedures
is I think 18 and maybe it’s 21 in some places.
But, yeah, hey, if you want to go hack up
your penis when you’re an adult, I mean it’s
idiot but go. That it is your body, your choice
but you cannot make that choice for newborns.
It is symptomatic of the degree to which the
idea simply asking children what they want
when they get bigger and deferring to their
choice for men is somewhat incomprehensible
to a lot of people. Why would the man have
a say? It’s his penis but it’s our culture.
Kick off to the cycle of violence, how are
we going to have soldiers?
Yeah, how are we going to have soldiers if
we don’t brutalize kids? Yeah, that’s the
reason why men are hit more times than women
because women need to train warriors to protect
the tribe from blah, blah, blah, right?
It’s essential to the civilization system.
Well, child abuse and civilization — I think
true civilization is not that, right? I mean
we’re talking just at the very beginning about
the extension of human rights, human principles
of morality to formally ignored society whether
it’s minorities or women. Well, the last one
is kids. The last way we need to extend ethics
is kids, right?
You say spanking, it’s just hitting. It’s
kidnapping and hitting because the kid cannot
leave. It’s assault. As Confucius said, the
beginning of wisdom is to call things by their
proper names. Once we identify it for what
it is, then we recoil from it. But whupping
and spanking and blah, blah, blah, so whatever
it is, these aren’t categories of crimes you’d
ever dissociate with adults.
So the point is how are we going to get our
warriors — how are we going to get soldiers
that are sociopathic enough to go fight our
wars, which is according to our last speaker,
there’s no way around it. We’re going to have
Yeah, they said that about all evil human
institutions prior to their end. Everyone
says, “This can’t last forever.” Oh, is it
gone already? I guess I was in the way, wasn’t
I? Yes, sir.
Hang on. You know that circumcision is tied
to religion. Did you take that into consideration?
What do you mean take that into consideration?
In the sense that a lot of them who are religious
believe that it’s God asking them to do this.
Sure. Absolutely. The Old Testament also commands
them to kill homosexuals and believers which
is apostates, sorcerers, basically everybody
else and human sacrifice. So to me the first
recorded depiction of circumcision was 2400
B.C. in Egypt. That’s your first clue that
it’s barbaric. It’s 2400 B.C. I mean you say,
“Well, that’s tradition.” It’s like do you
have a cell phone? Then you’re willing to
upgrade, aren’t you?
Thank you everybody so much.
Can I ask a question?
Wait, wait, wait. Sorry. Can I tell you not
for the first time in my life, I was a little
premature. I’m sorry. Go ahead.
We just had Kathleen Wynne as a newly elected
premier of Ontario. She has earmarked $1.5
billion to childcare or daycare. I listened
to you at the Domestic Violence Symposium
and it really stuck in my head out of all
the things that you said the harm that children
have by being put into daycare. What can we
do to deal with this issue? Because I see
it very concerning that we’re going to put
$1.5 billion extra money into sending these
children — I’ve seen them being strung along
At two years of age. And it is appalling to
No, but it’s good for the government because
if you get women to go into the workforce,
you can tax them. You’re going to tax moms.
So if you get women to go into workforce,
then you can tax two new groups of people.
You can tax the women who are now working
who formerly were providing childcare and
you can tax the childcare workers and get
them into nice unions that will always vote
for bigger government and blah, blah, blah.
So it’s a great investment on the part of
the government just as usual it’s at the expense
of children. So much of what we do in society
from the national debt to wars, to the family
court policies is at the expense of children
for the sake of irresponsible adults. And
we don’t have a society as yet where the interests
of children are put first and foremost. It’s
just a Hallmark card we look at and then throw
in the shredder.
But if were actually to realign our society
and put the interests of children first and
foremost and think about that every time we
try to make a social decision, then we would
say, “Well, what do the children need?” Well,
they need their moms or their dads but mom
comes with the feeding bags so it’s usually
better for them to be closer. And so we want
moms home with their children and so we would
try and figure out a society which would allow
I’m a big one for — social shaming, social
negative consequences is to me the best way
society should be organized. And when we get
this everything goes in single moms are heroes,
everyone is fine, everyone is great, we end
with this multiplicity of rules. There’s an
old segment which says, when you get rid of
the big rules, you don’t end up with no rules;
you end up with an infinity of tiny rules.
And the big rules are we should be responsible
for our children. We should be responsible
with our sexuality. We should have children
in a committed pair bond relationship and
we should have children outside of that. And
if we make a mistake and mistakes happen,
then we should give the child two people who
can raise it in the best way for the child.
Now, everything furthers that end to me would
be advantageous to society, but people who
are irresponsible always want to escape the
consequences of their irresponsibility. That’s
what we like to do and with the government,
that gets to be held easily I think. So I
think there’s a variety of policies which
could be suggested but I think that would
be, first and foremost, in the best interest
of the child should be a motto tattooed on
our hearts not bullshit said by the government
that they never follow.
Before we take our last question, I would
like to make a suggestion and offer. I’d like
to work with you to do something about this
daycare business and the $1.5 billion up our
tax dollars that should be used for that.
Well, actually, the bill is going to go. The
kids, they’re not billion and a half dollars.
They’re just borrowing it, right? So hey,
they get to stuff you in daycares and stick
you with the bill.
Can I make a comment?
Thank you. I stepped out so I might have missed
this. If I’m saying something that you already
mentioned I’m sorry. But there is media here
and I’m very involved not just with the men’s
rights movement but with the intactivist movement.
And I think this is important to say because
the American media tends to never really do
their research on circumcision outside what
you read in the US from the American Medical
Association and groups like that. And that’s
where they get their information. Of course,
the American Medical Association is profit-based
and they make a tremendous of money off of
Recently, what I think the media and everyone
else here needs to know that recently the
Council of Europe which represents — which
is even larger than the European Union is,
about as twice as many member nations and
has commissions specifically to address human
rights, they held extensive debates and reviewed
extensive literature on things like the trauma
that it causes the children as well as the
loss of sensitivity and all kinds of things
about this so-called benefits and all that.
And they have voted that it violates the child’s
And in fact, that it isn’t comparable to female
circumcision because there are several different
types of female circumcision, one of which
is the removal of the clitoral foreskin which
is anatomically equivalent to male circumcision.
And the media needs to know that when you
write stories on circumcision because the
Council of Europe’s decision was backed by
pediatric associations all throughout Scandinavia.
The top pediatric medical association in Germany
backed them up 100%. And this is not a fringed
group that’s out there against circumcision.
It’s very real and something we need to look
From a moral standpoint, it’s such an easy
issue that it takes a massive amount of propaganda
to ignore the basic fact. It’s the initiation
of the use of force against the helpless and
defenseless infant. My argument is basic.
Is it healthy flesh? Then leave it alone.
Hi, Stefan. My name is Janet Bloomfield. I
have three children. I have never hit them
I actually don’t believe in punishment of
any kind. I believe in letting them learn.
You want to throw rocks in the air, well,
go for it. I was raised by an extremely violent
mother so I had to learn how to be a parent
and I found Dr. Sears and Attachment Parenting.
What do you think of that philosophy?
I think that whatever contributes to a closer
bond, to an empathetic bond between parent
and child is the best shield against aggression.
Aggression results when you dehumanize whoever
it is. If you empathize with that person,
you would rather hit yourself than hit that.
And I just want to support you in saying that
when there’s no violence, creativity emerges.
That’s my kids, all three of them. They’re
just fantastic. And I’m constantly getting
compliments on how well-behaved they are.
It sort of — it’s weird. I’m getting congratulated
for not beating the fuck out of my kids. Like
isn’t that just a basic — shouldn’t people
just know that?
My point is for people who are looking for
guidance for how to be the kind of parent
that doesn’t need to resort to screaming and
yelling and punishment, Dr. William Sears.
He is an absolutely fantastic resource. He
publishes books. Anyone who is expecting a
baby, look for books by Dr. Sears. They are
a wonderful place to start I think.
Yeah. I’ll just finish with one story. My
daughter is five — I guess two stories. I
bit my tongue the other day and she looked
at me and she’s like, “Ooh, dad, I felt that
in my own tongue,” which is the implantation
of mirror neurons which means that she empathizes
with somebody else’s experience to the point
where she feels. It was like great. My job
is like mostly done. Like 90% of parenting
is the first couple of years. And so she has
the empathy. I now no longer have to worry
about her ever being cruel.
The other day we went to a play center and
I don’t know why, I don’t have a lot of hair,
but last time I was at a play center. I was
kind of inching my way down the slide and
I hit something metal, and basically it was
like airstrike of lightning going through
my body and it scared the crap out of me,
almost literally actually. Oh, there’s been
accident at the slide. Anyway, so I didn’t
want to do it again.
And so the next time we were at that play
center she said, “Dad, I know you’re scared.
I get it. I understand. Like when I fell off
my scooter, I was scared too. But you remember
what I did?” I’m like, oh, no, I know. “You’re
five. Get in line.” What she said, “I went
back and I did my scooter again and you encouraged
me to do that, remember?”
Hey, I’m an authority. I wouldn’t be an authority
if I wanted rules to go two-way. So I ended
up going down the slide. We had a great time.
I was coached by a five-year-old on how to
overcome my fears. You can’t beat that as
parenting. I mean that’s fantastic experience.
I think we’re done now. Okay. Thank you, everybody,